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Why its ok that people don't get you.

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When other people around you are criticising what you do or why you do things, that is perfectly fine.

Why?

Simply because they are not you.  They have their own model of the world that they are working within.  They have their own focus and thoughs.  They have their own goals and definitions of success.  You, are in charge of your own.  Sometimes they will not align with others and that may cause confusion or frustration.  As each of us create our own model of the world, it can mean we all have different versions of what is good.  That's ok,  it's not right or wrong. It is just different.

All you need to do is realise that this is what is happening.  You can choose to help the other person understand this or you can just get on with being yourself.

You are you, and no one else.  Be the best you you can be.

Want to be a people person?

Are you one of the people that dread party invites, introductions or striking up that converstation with that special someone? If so, I am here to help you realise this does not have to be the case. It all starts with your thinking.

YOUR THINKING TODAY

"I'm just not a people person" you think to yourself as you walk into the pub, club or meeting. Well, you are probably right. As long as you keep telling yourself that, you are not going to be one.

FUTURE THINKING

The first thing to do is forget what you think you know about yourself. The more you tell yourself something, the more you will believe it. So, that old way of thinking that "I'm just not a people person" has to go. Replace it with an open mind and heart. Take each opportunity to meet people as a fresh start, a fresh chance to make new friends and contact.

Secondly you should know that pretty much everyone gets nervous and that this is OK. Those confident people around you, they are likely to be just as nervous as you. The secret that they know, the one that you now know, is that it is ok if people do not like you. If things do not go to plan, do not take it personally. After all, the person you are speaking to might be having the day from hell.

Change your thinking, engage your people power.