When we compete against others we are focusing energy, emotion and resources on activities that are not beneficial to us. We are not someone else, we are us. Why spend time trying to be someone else, when you are perfectly fabulous and indeed the only person that can be you. Just remember, the job of being someone else is already taken.
Too often we focus on the past, we dwell on it. As a result we never leave the past behind, we get stuck and repeat old mistakes. Learn what you need to learn and move on. Projecting a positive future is what we need to do to enable our brains to know what we want. When we know what we want, our reticular activation system will do all it can to give you the future you want.
Focus your attention on what you want, this will give you an air of positivity in everything you do. Drawing your attention to what you don't want, will only bring what you do not want. Our brains do not process negatives.
It is easy to notice what we do not have, what we wish we had. Sometimes we need to look at what we already have. Looking at how lucky and blessed we already are can reinforce the positive feelings inside and help us realise we are already good people and confident.